January 24, 2024

Once again, it’s January. Fourteen years have passed. In those fourteen years, I have graduated with an Elementary Education Certification with Endorsements and honors; taught elementary school for nine years; sold my home and downsized; relocated to my childhood town; and raised a beautiful daughter. I have been called a “Rising Phoenix” by those closet to me. Others, who were not part of our journey, have told me I have “baggage.” Apologies dearest friend. I do not have baggage. You’re mistaken. I come with battle scars. I make zero apologies. Those battle scars were won fighting for my child, my life, and survival.

Battle scars take time to heal. In January, the scars tear open just enough so you feel the sting. It reminds me of how far my daughter and I have risen. It reminds me of how incredibly blessed we are.

Fourteen years ago I lost my husband to an unexpected heart attack. In a moment, our lives were forever changed. He was my lobster. My best friend. We promised each other forever and I wholeheartedly loved him. After his passing, we were embraced by family and friends. My daughter’s school and dance community extended words of encouragement and love. We will forever be grateful for that outpouring love.

On the first anniversary of his passing, I wrote and posted the following “Pearls of Wisdom” on Facebook. Wisdom should be shared. Stories should be shared.

Pearls of Wisdom

• Tell your spouse and kids how much they mean to you. Hold them close.
• Love and laugh with your kids.
• Meet with an attorney and have a comprehensive estate plan drafted. If you have kids select a guardian.
• Become an Organ Donor. Make your wishes known to your family.
• Review your Life Insurance Policy and Beneficiaries.
• Share the location of your passwords and legal documents with those closest to you.
• Take time for your friends.
• Re-evaluate what is taking priority in your life. Nothing is more important than family.
• Pray and trust that God has a divine plan for you. This plan may not always be what you have in mind. That’s ok too. There is something to be said about the road less traveled.

Our story has infinite plot twists that are best discussed over a strong cup of coffee. Such details are not for a blog, but a close friend. I share our story not for sympathy. All of us have experienced loss at some point in our lives. I share our story so others will be inspired to live a less cluttered and complicated life. My story has many chapters that have ended and countless yet to be written. I am excited to see where this year will take us.

—Jenn